I, personally, don’t buy into that mindset, because…I mean…I’m finding dick just fine. If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard something like, “What do you call a Top in ? A visitor,” I’d probably be able to pay rent for the next 3 months. There’s this common idea that bottoms exist in excess, while tops are unicorns. If you recall me talking about how patriarchy affects Gay/Queer men’s spaces, this is (maybe?) another example. Assholes! Let’s be more cognizant of others in our sluttery…MOVE! 2) Bottoms competing with each other But what really gets me is the dudes who can clearly see they’re blocking people, but still don’t move. Shift over to the nearest corner or a spot off to the side, so we can walk through. I’d rather be cruising around for dick (so I can enjoy thotty self like y’all) than being stuck, idly watching. I do enjoy seeing men hit it off and enjoy their sexuality with each other (even where I’m not involved), but like…I’m also not a voyeur. I feel like I’m not alone in any of these, so let’s share: However, there’s a few common things I’ve seen and experienced in cruising spaces that confuse me, if not put me off. Not to mention, it just makes sex that much more fun. Cruising has given me opportunities to explore myself sexually and, in turn, learn about myself, as a whole (or a whole hoe…either works). As a sexually liberated Gay man, there’s one staple of “Gay culture” that I’ve been quite fond of over the years: Cruising.
